Hey, I’m Emma, Step Mum to a 16 yo teenager and 21 yo young lady. I met them both over 10 years ago now so my son was 6 and my daughter was 11. it hasn’t been easy, as we all know, but the last 3 years have been the easiest. I now call them my son and daughter. They call me Mum. Their bio mum was in their lives when I met them and started a relationship with their dad. They both lived with their dad full time and would see their bio mum every other weekend. She is very narcissistic. not nice to her children. My son would always be told he does everything wrong, nothing right, made comments about his weight And just mean to him. My daughter tried her best to have a relationship with her but was either having nice comments or then made to feel bad. This is just a very short version , so much has happened. I never got involved when they went to their mums. It wasnt my place. I even gave her a hug when she split from her fiancé. thats just who I am. Eventually my son and daughter chose not to see her anymore. Their decision and they haven’t seen her for 5 years now. It’s not been easy coming into a ready made family and trying to fit in. Trying to find your place within it. I read an amazing book called “how to be a happy step mum” it’s a must read and makes you not feel so alone. Now I’ve noticed in the last couple of years step parents, step families and support is becoming more common. 10 years ago I couldn’t find much and no one in my family knew how I felt. My husband couldn’t relate either which was understandable But so difficult. So it’s nice to have this place step mums can come to for help, advice and to not feel so alone. If anyone wants to ask me questions or advice. Happy to help. 🙂 xx
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