They don’t get on because my children struggle the deal with their behaviour. The eldest one has Tourette’s and acts Very inappropriate. I did try and get him help with great difficulty as I had to get letters from the school and keep going to the doctors . I finally got an appointment but his mum ruined it because she doesn’t spend any time with her children to even know them. I didn’t go because i Knew I would of probably ended up getting myself in trouble by getting angry Because she is a complete compulsive liar , she even told the doctor it was shared cared.

My 21 year old lives with her boyfriend . My 19 year old at home and my 15 year old. My stepsons are 9 and 11 years old now . The youngest was only 2 years old when his mum did what she did . Had a bad day with him yesterday actually, he had repeated something his mum had told him and started calling me a liar . I explained that I hate liars and I am a very honest person. I said life Is a lesson and we learn that to lie is a bad thing because he was like everyone tell lies ( his mother would of told him this ) and that he wants me to drop him off at his mums . He is normally very happy with me but I get maybe a episode like this once a month because of the Damage his mother has caused.

No we don’t have children together because he didn’t want any more because he said I have three and he had two so we have five between us . I would of had more tho but too late now as I am 43 .

Did her admitting that she shouldn’t of been a mother, help you at all ? I have always said I wish that she would be honest and admit she just isn’t maternal. Many people who I am not friends with and know her, have said when the boys were babies that she wasn’t normal with them at all, they found it very Peculiar and they don’t know why she went On to have another one. My husband didn’t even want children with her and then she had trouble getting pregnant anyway , my husband said after she gave birth he was concerned about her mothering skills and went and got advice but people assured him it was probably because she was depressed but she won that lottery money and then just wanted a single life. I think it is because she is so fake, what gets me down. I feel like i need to protect/defend the boys against her, as she really brain washes them and I don’t want the boys to think that what she has told them is normal either but i can’t say anything Because my husband said let him deal with it , so I just end up not being able to sleep or getting upset . I honestly don’t know what to do anymore .

Just that I love the boys . I don’t know how to refocus tho , how do you manage that ? I don’t sleep and the stress has made me unwell because of how she treats her children, even when we use to communicate with us she would never reply and be awkward , she was always changing schools and doctors contact info, so we would not get important information as she never told anyone she was only the secondary parent not the boys main carer. I understand what You’ve said tho about how you react to any situation. I don’t even want her coming near my house as my blood boils I literally start shacking because I don’t know how that woman sleeps at night and how she can not want her kids .. the damage has been done now tho. She has had 7 years to want her children.

No we don’t have contact , she blocked me because I told her that I’ve never met such a liar in my life but that was because she lied to me about working full time . i know how much she earns because she pays me child maintenance and she doesn’t not work full time . Plus people always see her around and she is not dressed for work at all. Then she started messaging their father knowing full well he works full time and isnt Allowed his mobile and it is me that needs the information because I do the school runs and all the childcare. So he said that she needs to be communicating with me and can she not see why . But she Is very self centred and very cold hearted, so no point really talking to her because the situation will just get stressful again and upsetting . Even tho she will still find some way of causing trouble .

I’m so glad as well I am not the only one . I honestly thought it was just me, as I don’t see anyone having to put up or go through what I do at his school. She even lied to my stepsons new teacher the other week and told him that her son is in her care every other week, surely the school see who takes and picks him up . I was like no she doesn’t have him for a full week , she didn’t want that. I know they don’t care anyway but I don’t know why she can’t be honest about the childcare arrangements after 7 years. I just want a peaceful, less stressful life xx

You are totally right tho. She also doesn’t buy correct uniform , for example she just brought puma trainers with the word puma all over the front in a big white logo , she has been told they are not suitable for school shoes but still let’s him wear them to school . Even tho we have provided him with plain black school shoes she will not allow him to wear them on her 6 school days a month . It’s crazy !! She doesn’t even give him a PE kit tho and then makes out it has been lost . I think all these ex’s have some sort of behaviour disorder because it is Not a normal caring motherly behaviour At all.

thank you for your reply . I was Actually thinking of just paying for school dinners on her days so I know he has eaten a decent lunch . it isn’t about the money for me either . She just makes no effort but you’d think cos she doesn’t have him much she would make an extra effort to be a good mother but she always does the opposite I really don’t get it ?