Hey everyone,
29 yo stepmum to a little girl for the past three years with my own bio son, share 50/50 custody at the moment but has been full time for the first two years. I feel like I could write a novel. Would love to meet someone in the same boat, I have yet to meet anyone who is my age who is also a stepmum and looking for someone who understands a little bit how complex and stressful this experience can be - it really is something you have to experience to understand right? 😄
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Hi
I am 34, and I have been a step mum since I was 30 - so for the last four years. My step children are now ages 9,14 and 16. There is a 12 year age gap between me and my partner which has its challenges and unfortunately he is unable to have any more children. I have find this somewhat extremely difficult being a step mum to his three children and knowing I will be unable to have biological children myself. I deal with this by not telling anyone of my situation and changing the situation if someone asks if I want my own kids. I find the conversation too difficult.
I have found myself moving 20 miles away (not to far) away from my home town where I have all my family and friends and living in an unfamiliar town in what was his and ex wifes forever home. It can be very isolating at times. My friends in the last couple of years have all started having children and I somewhat feel left out of their 'mums club' and none of my friends have step children and therefore have a lack of understanding and empathy towards my situation. They all support each other and tell each other what good job they are doing and I feel like step mums don't always get the recognition we deserve.
We have equal custody of the children on a week on and week of basis and the ex can be somewhat difficult.
I wouldn't change my situation as I love my partner and my step children to bits however it does feel good to write this down and share with other step mums xx