When You Feel Out of Control in Your Own Life
A Guided Psychological Toolkit to Help You Feel Calmer, Clearer, and Back in Control
Stop spiralling. Understand what’s really going on.
Reclaim your steadiness with grounded, research-informed tools that actually work for stepmum life.
Do you ever feel like your whole life is being shaped by other people — their plans, their emotions, their decisions — while you’re left carrying the impact?
This 20+ page guided toolkit is a high-end, psychology-based resource created specifically for stepmums who feel overwhelmed, powerless, or stuck in a life that doesn’t feel like their own.
It blends stepfamily systems research with therapeutic tools so you can understand what’s happening and take back your power.
This isn’t a pep-talk.
It’s not “just let it go” advice.
It’s a structured, clinically informed process designed to help you:
✅ What You’ll Learn and Do
✔ Understand why you feel out of control — using the Control Imbalance Triangle™
✔ See the system clearly — where you have control, where you have influence, and where you never will
✔ Close your Influence Gaps™ so you stop carrying stress that doesn’t belong to you
✔ Build your personalised Power Plan — centred on your choices, boundaries and emotional energy
✔ Use the L.E.T.G.O™ Method to release what drains you without shutting down or pretending you don’t care
✔ Regulate your nervous system so you stop living in fight/flight mode
✔ Respond instead of react when you're triggered
✔ Return to yourself — your values, your needs, your internal steadiness
You’ll walk away with reflection exercises, mapping tools, grounding practices, undo-the-overwhelm steps, and a clear plan for what to do next time life starts to pull you under.
✅ WHAT MAKES THIS TOOLKIT DIFFERENT?
✨ Created by a stepfamily specialist — not generic productivity or self-help advice
✨ Based on stepfamily research, psychological frameworks and nervous system science
✨ Designed for the real issues:
– unpredictable schedules
– emotional fall-out from other adults
– kids’ behaviour
– responsibility without control
– constant mental load
✨ Completely personalised — you’ll map your family, your triggers, your energy drains
✨ Premium, calm, therapeutic design — beautiful to print, easy to use on tablet or laptop
It’s not “how to control more.”
It’s how to take back the part of your life that is yours, and release the part that isn’t.
✅ WHO THIS IS FOR
This toolkit is for you if:
🔹 You’re exhausted from holding everything together
🔹 You’re stuck in overthinking, anxiety, or “what if?” spirals
🔹 You’re tired of living according to other people’s emotions
🔹 You feel responsible for things you cannot influence
🔹 You want a calmer, clearer, steadier stepmum life
🔹 You’re ready to stop abandoning yourself
If you’ve ever thought:
“I’m trying so hard, but none of this is mine to control.”
This was made for you.
✅ WHAT YOU RECEIVE
📌 Instant digital download
📌 20+ page guided psychological toolkit (A4, PDF)
📌 Fillable online or easy to print
📌 Designed for solo use or alongside therapy/coaching
✅ HOW TO USE IT
✨ Work through it in one sitting (90–120 minutes) or break it into sections
✨ Use the mapping pages regularly to stay grounded
✨ Revisit the L.E.T.G.O™ Method whenever a situation spirals
✨ Keep the one-page summary somewhere visible as your daily anchor
👉 Download your toolkit now and start feeling more in control of your own life again.