A guide for dads having a baby with a partner who is becoming a mum for the first time.

Understand what she needs. Make sense of what this transition is bringing up for you too. Stay close to your older children. Make a plan that works when the baby arrives.

You're having another baby.

But for your partner, this is the first time.

You may be excited while also worrying about what it means for your older children. You may feel pulled between protecting them, supporting your partner and preparing to become a dad again.

And sometimes whatever you do can feel as though somebody is disappointed.

This guide isn't here to tell you you're doing everything wrong.

It's designed to help you understand why this transition can feel so different for your partner, recognise what may be driving some of your own reactions, and work out what genuinely needs your attention before the baby arrives.

You'll explore worries about your older children being replaced, guilt about giving the new baby things they didn't have, protecting your relationship with all of your children, the other household, different parenting rules, birth and recovery, and what happens when good intentions land differently from how you meant them.

There is also private reflection space for your experience. What you're worried about. What you need from your partner. What you feel guilty about. What you're finding hard to admit.

Because supporting her doesn't require pretending this transition is uncomplicated for you.

The final planning pages help you and your partner turn the difficult conversations into actual decisions around the children, the birth and the first weeks at home.

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