Help! Although I felt I was bonding with my eldest SD before teenage years, that all changed at 13 when the hormones kicked in - she clearly has a lot of struggles and things on her mind, including her gender identify (is now none binary), anxiety and self harm. A few months ago she said she wasn't happy at our house, we made a couple of changes at her suggestion but didn't really get to the bottom of what was wrong. Yesterday out of the blue she told my partner that she couldn't tolerate me and unfortunately I overheard. She doesn't feel comfortable around me and can't be herself. Ive tried so hard with her and her sister but get nothing back. I don't discipline as leave that to their dad and don't even ask them to do anything, I'm friendly and try to show an interest in them, but because we haven't I also feel uncomfortable around them and anxious before and during their visits. They spend most of their time in their rooms so how can I build a relationship with them? She can't tell me what it is she doesn't like about me, what I'm doing wrong or what I can do differently. We are going on holiday on Friday and I don't know how to be around her, how do I survive a week together in the car and a holiday cottage with someone who doesn't like me, I'm walking in egg shells hooking she doesn't turn around to say she doesn't want to come to our house any more as that would break my partner 😢 I sometimes think it would easier for me to just walk away from the relationship but I love him and don't want any more disruption for my little boy

My 11 year old SD is getting tested for ADHD and Autism, it's impossible to build any relationships with her, she barely speaks to me or makes eye contact. Anyone else have experience with autism?

My 15 year old SD doesn’t seem to want to do anything with us anymore. I’m sure this is common in teenagers but she’s currently blaming it on anxiety, which seems to come and go! whilst on holiday with mum and stepdad she went to the beach / out for meals, but with us she refused to join us for these activities and others, only leaving the caravan for 1 day in the week! She was happy to go on a school trip to Paris but too anxious to have a day out in London with us. She will make out that she does want to come but then pulls out at the last minute when we’ve made plans and often spent money on tickets etc It’s really hard not to take it personally and not to think that she just doesn’t want to spend time with us! Anyone else have the same? i am struggling with weather it is worth booking a family holiday for next year as it caused so much upset this year