Hi everyone. Really looking for some advice or even just a listening ear. I have a 9 year old stepdaughter and my partner and I have a 3 year old daughter and another daughter on the way.
My best friend gets married in summer 2024 and I'm her maid of honour. It's not a definite decision yet but she has insinuated that my step daughter may not be invited to the wedding even though my partner, myself and our two daughters are. She said my stepdaughter is welcome to the evening reception but possibly not the day. She has said it's a numbers thing but I don't think that is the whole reason. As I said she hasn't said she definitely won't be invited to the day as she has to check out the numbers etc but I'm really stuck with what to do and how to approach it if stepdaughter isn't invited to the day. In one way I understand as my friend has never had very good experiences with my stepdaughter but also how am I supposed to tell my partner that only two of his daughters are invited. I feel really stuck and just want to get my head around it and how to handle it. I will also add that me and my partner are getting married in 2025 and my best friend will be my maid of honour to make it especially awkward if she doesn't invite my stepdaughter to her wedding. I think that about covers it but I feel like there's so much to unpack with the situation if anyone has any questions please feel free to ask, but any advice or empathy would be much appreciated right now. Many thanks Helen.