My partner and his ex have always spent Christmas together with their kids since they split 6 years ago. As we were getting married in 2023, I was told last year was the last time, and that from this year onwards they would begin to split Christmas and take it in turns.
Fast forward to the conversations that have happened this week and SD gets upset at the thought of not seeing her dad at Christmas.
Ex-wife reasons with my now-husband that they can't possibly change anything if it upsets them. They must put the kids views first.
It's an impossible argument to win, but the prospect of spending Christmas Day in my house alone, whilst my husband plays happy families with his ex is horrid. The alternate years are worse - last year I was expected to be out of my own home by 8am to allow the ex to come over (she will not be in the same place as me ever), and I wasn't allowed to return until she had left.
I guess I'm not looking for solutions cos there are none. But just wanted to rant and let off steam.