Rant incoming!!
I have 2 bonus children that came with the husband.... child 1 stated they are being hurt by mums partner - significant bruising was present. Child 1 also stated they get put in a buggy as punishment by mum and more bruising consistent with buggy straps were present. Child 2 confirmed these two things are regular occurrences. Child 1 is way over buggy age and we haven't used one for at least 3 years.
Long story short; called police to safeguard both kids. Mum's partner is banned from mums house by police.
Children staying here whilst investigations are ongoing.
Child 2 missing mum but also anxious about getting told off for telling the truth and is having tearful outbursts.
I know me and Hubby have done the right thing but why do I feel like the A Hole? This is keeping me up at night.
34, tired and emotional 😪
Ps. Why is there no bonus parent guidebook!! This role should at least come with a government warning *not your children but you will be emotionally invested and get zero say in what happens to them even though you love them as your own*
That sounds so stressful and it is stressful but you have 100% done the right thing and it's a huge thing for the kids to go through too and they will pick up hugely on your stress too.
They won't understand at this point but it might be worth sitting down with them, maybe teach them about police and how they'll help them and that actually what she's done is help her sibling and helped them keep them both safe? X
You have 100% done the right thing by the kids by taking them out of a harmful situation, that doesn’t mean it’s easy for you though.
What is making you feel like the A hole?
Wow that sounds tough, and no you’re not the AH. It sounds like the mum’s partner is, and it’s obviously better to be safe than sorry with this sort of thing.
The kids will know you guys are looking out for their well-being hopefully?