Hi there! 3 years ago my bio son was 4 and I became a stepmom of 3 (then 5yo boy, 11yo boy, 14yo girl). At the time both me and my partner had 50/50 custody. After a few months of dating, during our first Covid-lockdown, the mother of his children ended her life. Since then I've been a full-time stepmom of 3 and part time mom of 1...
I struggle with this situation a lot. It's so hard to have my step kids around ALL the time and only seeing my own son half of the time. On top of that I have almost no alone time with my partner. It's been a huge challenge to try and build a relationship with someone while there's 3 children around that experienced such severe loss/trauma and that need a lot of love, patience and attention. It's slowly improving as the years pass, but still, it's a lot to handle on a daily basis. Sometimes I'm so proud of how far we've come already, sometimes I want to run away screaming 🙃
Is there anyone else in this kind of situation? Would love to connect and listen to your stories!
@Ariane I'm going to share your post on my socials as I am sure there are some lovely women in our community who can help.
For what it's worth your situation sounds really challenging and it sounds like you are doing an INCREDIBLE job. Do take a moment to congratulate yourself on how far you have come ❤️
Hi. You sound like an amazing person, that must be so hard, only seeing your biological child half the time, must be gut wrenching when he’s not with you. But to take on three children who have been through such an awful experience shows what a truly wonderful person you are, so you need to try and remember that in the tough times.