Anyone else got a Disney dad as a partner? It makes me anxious that everything has to be so hyped up every other weekend (and holidays), so he can spoil his daughter. I then struggle to implement consistent boundaries for my child and our shared child which is fine the rest of the time. Anyone else?
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Edited: Feb 23, 2022
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How is it going @Honey Alice ? x
eeeek this is a really tough one. Does he understand that it isn't helping her long term, either health wise (maom & slush not exactly a great pre bedtime snack!) and also knowing that she can do whatever she wants. As she tries to form relationships as she gets older it'll be hard if she thinks she can always get her own way! She'll get a rude awakening!!
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I tried. I suggested the same bedtime routine we do for my 8 year old. He replied, if my 9 year old daughter wants to stay up until 9 or 9.30 on a weekend, she can! However we go to bed about 10 so I was trying to explain it leaves us with no quality time, but he just insists the same thing... I don't see her often.
He also likes to let her eat whatever she requests, the last request was a handful of maoam sweets (having already eaten some in the day), and various blue slushy at 8pm.
How do I explain to my child, I'm sorry, you aren't having that before bed. It's no one's birthday, no special occasion; it's just his daughter get special treatment when she comes.
How did you both get over it?! We are on the verge off splitting up. The weekends she comes makes me so anxious because nothing is consistent or if I tell her off, like my own child, that's not OK!
Oh this is so tough. I had this with my partner for a bit. It's not helpful to anyone is it as it doesn't benefit the kids, it doesn't help BM when Dad is Disney Dad either. Can you sit with your partner and agree a list of consistent things for ALL the kids in your house? So they are all treated the same. It's not fair for your kids to see the red carpet rolled out for SD every other wend...
This is what is happening, he's being her friend and I can only see that when she is a teenager it will get worse as they'll be no respect at all. I am a teacher so was disaplining, but he decided to then undermine me because I wasn't fun enough and my boundaries were too consistent and 'sometimes they don't need to tidy up' etc
Mimes explained why he does it (because he doesn't see her very often). Though this is also because she struggles with her behaviour due to the trauma she's been through, so he also says he doesn't want her to kick off. It just doesn't sit right as a good example to my other kids. I've explained, we've talked and he just can't see my point of view.
my top tip. Don’t go in heavy handed. Drop hints, give subtle tips on how he could handle situations differently etc.
Mine explained why he did it and I understood. But he also understoo that I couldn’t live in Disneyland x